We all want the best for our kids and seeing them hurt is the last thing we’d ever want to experience. Books can be a great asset to children who enjoy reading, as it can help them better manage their feelings and cope with different situations.
One of the many problems my divorce clients face is helping their children adjust to new living arrangements and coping with the separation of their parents.
Here are some books I highly recommend that can help children through these difficult times:
Two Homes by Claire Masurel – This illustrated piece takes on a very gentle approach to the divorce situation and highlights the positives of each home and the parent involved in it. We believe this is a great book that discourages pitting parents against each other and focusing on the good qualities each parent has for their child.
The Family Book by Todd Parr – This book is not particularly divorce-related, but it focuses on pointing out that a family’s members are all different and all possess their own, unique personality. This book teaches children that even if it might not seem like it, being different is okay and it’s not something to dwell on.
Dinosaurs Divorce by Marc and Laurene Brown – We know that children love illustrations and vibrant pictures when it comes to being read a story. Well, this book projects just that with its animated dinosaurs theme. By reading this book with your child (or children), you will be able to help them identify those feelings they may have about divorce, and as a result, can find a way to help themselves manage those feelings.
It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear by Vicki Lansky – I recommend this book, not only because it helps children cope with divorce, but because it also provides some tips for parents, as well. In this book, Koko Bear learns, for the first time, what divorce is and exactly how to deal with those changes and feelings that come with it, ensuring that the divorce isn’t, in any way, shape, or form, Koko’s fault.
Megan’s Two Houses by Erica Jong – This book, with a primary focus on 8-year-old Megan, describes the problems she faces that are common with any child going through their parents’ divorce. Throughout the story, Megan begins to adjust to having different rooms, pets and belongings due to the separation of her parents. If your child is having trouble figuring out how this process works, we recommend having this to walk them through this difficult time.
The Boys and Girls Book About Divorce by Richard Gardner – Teens can sometimes have a completely different approach to how they’re feeling about their parents’ divorce, compared to younger children. With this book, we can ensure you that they’ll be able to better understand that no blame should be put on them. It also covers crucial questions a teen may ask regarding divorce.
The Divorce Express by Paula Danziger – Follow teen Phoebe as she goes through the stages of her parents’ divorce, witnessing her father go on dates and going to a different school. If you have a teen who is just not sure what to make of the whole situation, we recommend The Divorce Express.